What God has given as a treasure is never to be used as a tactic.
Contrary to popular opinion, human beings are not mere animals whose sexual urges are satisfied in the male conquest of the female. No, God did not create human sexuality to work like that. Men, sex is not just for you and your needs. God never intended for you to demand your rights because, after all, you are the “head of the house.” And ladies, sex is not a tactical weapon that you bestow when you’re pleased with your husband’s behavior and withhold when he has not measured up to your arbitrary standards of conduct. Sexual intimacy in marriage is designed for the pleasure and benefit of both husband and wife. It’s supposed to bring you together, not tear you apart.
Hebrews 13:4 says, “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.” Sexual intimacy was created by God, and it is good. However, that does not mean that married couples have the right to introduce sinful behavior to allegedly enhance their relationship. That is a perversion of God’s truth. In the marriage relationship, both husband and wife must look to the good of the other in the area of sexual intimacy. Men, you cannot treat your wife like garbage and then expect her to warm up to you sexually. Ladies, your body is not your own; you have a responsibility to be attentive to your husband’s needs and not to wield your sexual power as a bargaining tool. Dating couples, do not take what God has ordained for marriage as your own until that man or woman has said “I do.” The man who pressures a young woman by saying, “If you love me, you will sleep with me” will have no respect for her in the morning if she gives in. The man who loves a woman as God has commanded will protect his beloved’s reputation and will want a bride without spot or wrinkle.
So, love’s attributes are clearly defined, and love’s allure must be properly contained, but what about love’s attitude?
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